Seven Steps to Re-Create Your Life!
Create the Freedom to Live the Life You Love!
1- Source... the cause. Something stands in the way of you being who you are, doing what you want, and going where you'd like to go. In medicine, proper diagnosis is half the cure. In this step, you source the cause of the block, obstacle, conflict or UN-state of mind (unhappy, unfulfilled, under-appreciated, unrecognized, unworthy, unloved, or unwilling).
How would your life be if you could locate AND pinpoint what's in the way of you living the life you love, and UN-DO your UN-states of mind?
2- Acknowledge... problems. Problems are an inherent, and important part of life. Problems are problems (not challenges), and ought not be trivialized, diminished, minimized or glossed over by trendy new-age language. Be willing to accept them, without fighting or judging them, and you'll take a major step to making your life work the way it's meant to work. As Richard Bach says, "There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts."
What problems do you have right now that by unwrapping their hidden gifts, will free you up to live life more fully?
3- Assess... the cost of your problems. What are the obstacles, blocks and conflicts costing you in all areas of life? What is the toll these are taking emotionally, physically, psychologically, socially, financially, operationally, and spiritually, with family and relationships? Begin to recognize and assess the consequences to you and others.
What is the price you're paying in all areas of life for holding on to your problems?
4- Measure... the value, benefit and payoff of re-solving them. There is huge payoff to eliminate the blocks, obstacles, conflicts and problems in these same areas of life. See the "upside" of how your life could be if you re-solved these issues.
It's at this point that you must squarely face your "payoff" for holding on to your problems, blocks, obstacles and conflicts. There's always a conscious or unconscious "payoff" to hold onto to relationships, things in the world and ideas (beliefs) in your head that no longer work, or you would have already given them up. Looking honestly at why you hold onto what doesn't work in your life takes courage, and a willingness to face any discomfort that comes with acknowledging the truth. Courage is a key element in getting past step four and onto step five, which is where re-solution takes place.
What is the payoff for you to re-solve these issues? Are you ready to re-solve these, put the past behind, and re-create your future, NOW? If so, move to step five. If not, you can stay here until you are ready.
5- Re-Solve... the problems. Get past the obstacles, blocks and conflicts in your life, livelihood and living. It is at this stage that many of us have trouble or get stuck. Re-solving requires us to let go of any vested interest in keeping things as they are, and calls forth the courage to re-solve problems and re-create life as you would like it to be.
We all have resistance points. We don't want to shift our beliefs, entertain a new point of view, or give up the need to be right. Re-solution is difficult at best and impossible at worst if you can't - really, won't - surrender and let go of life not working. Once you decide to cut off all other options, and choose to re-solve the problems, obstacles, blocks and conflicts, you open up the space to re-create your future, NOW. You begin to shape and form new possibilities for life, livelihood and living.
Which problems, obstacles, blocks and conflicts are you ready and willing to re-solve?
6- Choose.. new possibilities. Choosing new possibilities for living will happen as you increase your willingness to pass through step five, and re-solve what's in the way. Actually, step #5 and step #6 are the yin and yang of this entire process. You re-solve what's in the way, and choose a new possibility.
Positive thinking isn't enough. Positive thinking is not positive "choosing" - it's just more success b.s. If you really want to think positive, that's fine. It just won't make much of a difference if the underlying feeling or problem remains unresolved. A happy face and positive sayings may mask, but will not change, being unhappy inside, or feeling unfulfilled, under-appreciated, unrecognized, unworthy, unloved or unwilling.
Re-solving the cause of the problem or the thinking at the source vanishes the "UN-state of mind" and choosing opens up the possibility for you to re-create your life.
What will you choose being, doing and having in your life?
7- Support... yourself and others. How many people in your life support you, unconditionally? Who is there for you whenever you need, without hesitation, reservation or judgment? It's time to increase that number. Are you supportive, but not easily supportable? These are two sides of the same hand. You are truly supportive to the degree you are willing to be support-able. Great teachers are eager students, and learned masters are willing apprentices. These are the yin and yang of true inter-dependence.
Enlarge the circle of people you are willing to support, and in return, expand the number of people you let support you. Again, from Richard Bach: "The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life." Find people who respect you, and find joy in your life, people for whom you can feel the same way.
Who will you reach out to, today, to offer and request support?
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